Paradigm-Shifting Self-Pleasure
For Men- Both Single & Partnered
A Journey into the Life-Changing Rewiring From Mindless To Mindful Masturbation
(Formally known as Self-Pleasure for Mastery for Men)
What kind of relationship do you have with masturbation, your sexual energy and your cock?
Is it the kind of relationship that would feel good for another person to be on the other side of?
For example…
Do you talk with or at your sexual energy and cock?
Do you endlessly demand that it shows up when you want, how you want, without giving much back in return?
Do you find yourself frustrated when you can’t get hard or don’t last as long as you’d like when you’re with a lover?
Do you find your sexual energy to be erratic or elusive, not at all in your control?
Or perhaps you just don’t feel very fulfilled by masturbation… Maybe even depleted or distracted by it?
Are you dependent on porn to get aroused?
What if every time you compulsively chase a dopamine through mindless masturbation, you’re programming yourself towards a sexual disposition that’s taking you further from the type of sexual experience you want to have?
There are no right or wrong answers here, and no shame in whatever your current experience is.
However, if you’re not satisfied with your current relationship to masturbation, your sexual energy, your cock, and the rest of your sex life…
Let’s Change that now…
The way you self-pleasure is the way you condition yourself to make love.
The way you do one thing is the way you do everything.
You wouldn’t half-ass your way through playing guitar hero to prepare yourself for playing a live concert.
Every time you mindlessly masturbate, you are driving that pattern deeper into the way you connect with a lover, whether that’s not being present, racing to the finish line at the expense of cultivating stamina, staying stuck in a realm of disembodied fantasy, or numbing out to subtlety.
Allow me to introduce you to an entirely new approach to self-pleasure that will increase your:
✅ Pleasure
✅ Stamina
✅ Ejaculatory choice
✅ Vitality
✅ Focus
✅ Presence and connection with your lover
✅ Ability to listen to your own and your lover’s sexual energy
✅ Ability to fill your own cup when you don’t have a lover or when they’re not in the mood
✅ Fulfillment— both in and out of the bedroom.
And decrease your:
❌ Tendency to be distracted by your sexual energy
❌ Sexual frustration
❌ Dependence on porn
❌ Depletion
❌ Need to outsource your arousal and sexual fulfillment
What if your self-pleasure practice was the most honest, connected part of your day?
What if it wasn’t a means to an end, but a ritual of return?
You weren’t born chasing climax. You learned to.
From the first time you touched yourself, the world began shaping your relationship to pleasure: rush it, hide it, perform it, don’t feel too much, don’t make it too weird, don’t make it mean anything.
This course is here to help you unlearn all of that.
This is an invitation to meet yourself in a new way. To rewire what you’ve inherited. To feel—really feel—what your body wants to tell you, when you slow down enough to listen.
This is for you if you:
Are stuck in patterns of porn, fantasy, or emotional numbness
You feel disconnected or unfulfilled in your relationship to self-pleasure
Want to feel more present, more at choice, more real in your experience
Struggle with staying connected to your body during arousal
You want to experience self-pleasure as something sacred—not shameful, rushed, or empty
Want to work with self-pleasure as a training grounds to be a better lover
You’ve been doing inner work, but haven’t brought your sexuality along for the ride
What You'll Learn:
How to shift out of porn/fantasy and into embodied sensation
How to touch yourself without a goal, without pressure, and without performance
Breath, rhythm, and nervous system tools for staying grounded during arousal
Practices to re-pattern arousal and unlock real pleasure in your own hands
This course isn’t about performance. It’s about presence and mastery. Not about tricks—but truth.
If you've ever sensed that the way you've learned to relate to your erotic energy is incomplete or disconnected—
this is your invitation to come home.
This is a self-paced 3 week online challenge that will help you break free from porn, performance and pressure, and guide you into a deeply nourishing, fulfilling, intentional self-pleasure practice that will completely change the game.
Even though this is an online journey, you will spend minimal time on your laptop. This is a journey of embodiment.
You Will Receive 3 Modules that Include:
Teachings to facilitate the shift between mindless and mindful masturbation
A multi-layered self-pleasure practice that will revolutionize your relationship to masturbation and your sexual energy
A guided self-pleasure practice journey to integrate and embody the paradigm-shift somatically
A powerful guided breathwork practice to help you anchor into presence and expand and prolong your pleasure, not just in the bedroom but in every facet of life
Somatic tools for repatterning self-touch and reconnecting with your erotic intelligence
A no-porn challenge to reclaim your sexual sovereignty
A recorded Q & A with Sureya where you can listen to the journeys of other men who have explored this work
A sexy playlist
Instant, life-time access to the material
From Previous Students:
“My work with Sureya has helped opened up something in me that I never knew existed. Her teachings have sparked a fuse of desire so BIG, so magical inside me, its has changed my life forever. My experience with Sureya has made me feel I’m on a quest, a quest to make love to life its self. To soak up all the beauties life has to offer and truly connect. There is something DIVINE inside of us ALL just waiting to shine, I will forever be grateful to Sureya for showing me this! Truly a majestic soul!”
-Ben
“Thanks for all of your help. Having my wife participate has been super helpful because she understands what I’m trying to do and has been so supportive and she’s been very happy, which is what matters to me the most. It’s been a big change from six months ago, things were a little frustrating, but it’s been much better since then. This has helped enormously. My wife and I agree that this class has been life-changing for me and also for us.”
-Roger, 65
“As a man who considers himself intuitively in touch with my body and my senses, I can confidently say with these integrated practices, I am now able to be with myself more fully in presence along with my partners in every level of central and sexual experience.
I would recommend this course to any man that is truly ready to deepen their relationship with themselves.
Sureya has masterfully put together this course and others in a structured, supportive and comprehensive way that is easy to follow and without pressure to minimize overwhelm. She has cultivated and learned these practices herself and she has embodied it and such a divine, embodied and communicative way.
I am wholeheartedly support her work and cannot express the gratitude I feel within my heart, my mind, my body and my soul for what I received through this work.”-Logan
Paradigm-Shifting Self-Pleasure is now available!
Immediate access. Yours to keep, for just $197
Are you taking the self-pleasure journey alongside a partner?
Get access to Self Pleasure for Mastery & Venusian Pleasure Rituals for Women for a special bundle price!
Important Notes
For non-hetero couples: if you are interested in gifting a course to a partner, please email us at connect@sureyaleonara.com for special bundle pricing.
This course is focused around the male anatomy and therefore is specifically designed for men. If you identify as a man but don’t have male anatomy, this course won’t be the best fit for you.